Women often find themselves divorced at the same time they’re going through perimenopause and menopause. Why? Well, while there is never one reason for the breakup of a relationship, it is safe to say that the challenges of perimenopause and menopause can put a tremendous strain on a couple.
It’s so important for our loved ones (especially our spouses) to know when the perimenopause and menopause storm hits and what it’s all about. If the woman herself is overwhelmed, confused, and feeling isolated with her perimenopause and menopause experience, this alone can lead to incredible relationship strain. It doesn’t take long for communication to break down and silence and confusion to take over.
One of the biggest issues couples face during perimenopause and menopause is the loss of their sex life. This is exactly what happened to John and his wife.
John told me that his wife, who he called “the love of his life,” became uninterested in sex. He said, at a certain point, they became roommates instead of lovers. Their communication broke down, and they got divorced.
John had no idea that this was perimenopause and menopause related. He didn’t know that a drop in estrogen levels can cause a dry shmirshky, which can make sex hurt. He didn’t know that low testosterone results in a low libido.
He thought it was about him and that she didn’t love him anymore. He told me that he still loves his ex-wife deeply, and if they could have received help back then, it would have saved their marriage.
Don’t let this happen to you. Reach out for the help you deserve and face these challenges together, as a partnership; as a team. Remember that you both want the same end-result; you both want to be happy and to enjoy each other and your life together.
Like any healthy relationship, communication is the key, especially during perimenopause and menopause.
Oh, and guess what? It’s not just the women who deal with these issues first hand. There is such a thing, in fact, as male menopause (andropause). Google it!